NEW USER GUIDE / FAQ
If you are new to enjoying adult video chats or would like to learn more then this Quick Guide is for you. I've included tips on how to save money, what to expect from your experience, the difference between private, group and party chats and much.
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If you have never visited a live webcam site before it can be a little intimidating. Most sites aren't very user-friendly for those who have never tried video chat before, so let me try to lay out the basics and go from there!
What is an adult video chat site?
The first step is understanding the purpose of video chat sites then is understanding how they work. Basically, live video chat (or webcam, or adult cam) sites provide a way for men and women - referred to as "members" from now on - to explore their sexual fantasies with a willing, virtual partner (or partners) - referred to as the "host". This is achieved by connecting the member and the host via a live webcam and chat interface (refer to the screen shot in "How Do They Work?" to see how it works).
Most video chat sites feature photos and basic info for all available hosts on their home page. Clicking on the image/name/link for a host will typically take you to a free chat room. Here members and guests (those that have not signed up for a membership) collectively view the host's live video feed, ask questions about their show, and in some cases tip the host so that they will provide a "sample", so to speak, which may include nudity (e.g. A female host removing her bra).
What is a private chat?
In most cases you will have the option of entering a private video chat session with the host, typically via a button with text like "Take Me Private". If you have a membership/account you will usually be charged at a per-minute rate. If not, you will have to sign up and either make a deposit or buy some credits to put towards the show.
Specific details regarding private chats continue in the following section, however, it is important to understand that not all adult cam sites work the same way. Some offer only group shows (or "Party Chats"), which means no private shows, and/or offer non-exclusive private chats, which mean you may not have the host all to yourself. My reviews cover these details for each site so that you know before you visit them which types of shows they offer, and which they don't.
As mentioned in the Getting Started section, sites that offer private video chats allow you to interact with a host one-on-one. You will be able to view his/her live webcam, listen to them via microphone and chat via a chat interface (see the screen shot below). Some sites allow for tw0-way video chat so the host can see/hear you as well. In most cases, this is a premium service and will cost a bit extra.
What does a chat room look like? How does it work?
Although each adult cam sites' private chat looks and works differently, the screen shot below shows a fairly standard layout and options available. (Note this screen shot was from a free chat room which explains the messages from other guests/members in the chat interface).
As you can see there are numerous options including re-sizing the video window, adjusting volume, setting chat interface options (text size, for example), sending "smiley faces" and on the right options to further interact with the host, including sending email, tips, viewing their full profile and much more.
So now you are all alone with the woman (or man, or couple) of your dreams ... what now? Of course, that's entirely up to you! Please continue with the "What Can I Expect?" section to learn about what to expect and how to get the most out of private shows.
Everyone has their own sexual desires, kinks, fetishes and fantasies, that's what makes live video chat sites so special: They are a place where you can explore your fantasies in a safe, anonymous and welcoming environment. Years ago, phone sex served a similar purpose although with the distinct disadvantage of not being able to see the person you're talking to.
What happens in a private chat room?
So what can you expect once you start a private show? Obviously there are limitations as it is "virtual", however a private show is best thought of as a role playing between two consenting adults. The paying member provides the details and the host does her/his/their best to act it out. Of course, not everyone wants to play out a fantasy, many (perhaps most?) simply want to watch the host masturbate while the member gives direction. Others still prefer a sexy chat (typed or spoken) while some just want someone to talk or chat with. It really is up to you.
Which brings me to the most important part of your private chat: Making it clear to the host what you want to see and/or have her/him/they do. Do not be shy, intimidated or embarrassed - most hosts have heard and seen it all and they are not here to judge you, they are here to help you fulfill your fantasy.
How do I interact with the host? Any tips on how to get the most of my show?
The ideal way to start is to introduce yourself (fake names are, of course, perfectly fine!) and be polite to your host. Ask his/her/their name(s) and allow for a brief "feeling out" process so you can get comfortable with each other. For the show to live up to your expectations the host needs to feel confident they can provide what you're looking for, so don't rush into things, especially your first time with a particular host.
I'd also recommend avoiding "too personal" questions like asking about their family or, obviously, asking for contact information - something that is not permitted on most video chat sites. It's okay to get to know each other, just keep in mind that he/she/they are providing a service and you'll likely enjoy the experience more if you accept that you are fulfilling a fantasy and not meeting your future spouse!
How long does a private show last?
That really depends on you. How long you should spend in a video chat sessions depends first and foremost on your budget. Video chat sites can get expensive *very* quickly if you're not careful and so I do recommend setting a firm limit to the amount you spend per session, per week or per month. As much as you may be enjoying your private chat session (and the host) it's time to end things if you're spending more than you are comfortable with.
Conversely, it is considered poor etiquette, and may lead to a host banning you from their room, if you demand "instant action" when you enter a private show and quit the second he/she/they (or you) are done. Always be polite, always make the host feel appreciated and a polite "hello" and "thanks, see you soon!" goes a long way towards that.
Back in the day - okay, I'm talking about 10 years ago - there were only private chats available on adult webcam sites. That has all changed. Turns out that not everyone wanted (or needed) a personal, intimate experience; Some just wanted to see boobs. Kidding of course, but that's not far from the truth of it.
What is a group/party chat?
Many people, both men and women, prefer the community and/or fun experience of a group or party chat. They don't have any specific fantasies they need fulfilled and/or they prefer the less-personal environment a group chat provides. Okay, so what is a group or party chat?
Pretty simple, actually. A group chat is essentially an open chat room where anyone (or, at least, any member) can join in and watch a host perform whatever show they have planned. Instead of charging a per-minute rate the host relies on tips from members or, in some cases, a one-time entry fee to watch the show.
Here's a screen shot of a typical group/party (in this case "gold") show. Notice the counter in the lower left that keeps track of the amount of credits (or dollars) donated by members. In the chat window this host has provide a list of what to expect in her gold show as well as the cost for entry.
Video chat sites vary in how group/party chats work but they are usually fairly straightforward. Most sites also have a Help section or FAQ to further explain how they work.
What are the pros/cons of group chats?
The advantages of group shows are that they are typically much cheaper than private chats (unless you're tipping like a madman) and provide a comfortable environment to participate in the actual chat room itself (hosts are typically very engaged) or just sit back and enjoy.
The downside is that there is very little personal interaction with the host, unless perhaps you're the big tipper that day. Even then, it's not a one-on-one, private experience. You also have little or no control over what the host does. Some hosts will do certain things once a specific number of tips (in the form of credits typically) have been received but that can take awhile and may not be what you want to see. (For example, a host can say she'll do a strip show at 100 credits but you really want to see her masturbate).
What are "Freemium" and "Premium" chat sites?
Many adult video chat sites have moved from a private show-based business model to a focus group shows as it tends to attract more viewers can be more profitable long-term as a host is potentially making money the entire time they are online versus only when they are in a private show. On this site I refer to group chat-based sites as "freemium" sites.
For those that still want the intimacy and personal touch of private shows, don't despair, there are still plenty of options for what I refer to as "premium" (private show-based) sites. These are sites where most hosts have a free chat room where they tease, seduce and essentially wait until a member wants to start a private chat show. Once the show starts, the host is only available to the paying member who can then expect a personalized, one-on-one experience.
Do any sites provide both private and group shows?
Many sites do offer both private and group shows. In most cases, there is a strong preference for one over the other. A few adult chat sites offer a good mix of both and are referred to here as "Hybrid" sites. Please refer to my individual reviews to see what types of shows each site provides.
As mentioned earlier in this guide, video chat can get expensive whether you prefer private shows or group chats. The key to keeping things affordable is to first match your budget and expectations.
What if I have no budget at all?
Of course, the easiest way to save money is to not spend any at all. The Freemium sites I mentioned in the "Group Shows/Party Chats" section allow non-registered visitors to watch public shows. That means completely free. While you can watch everything from solo performers masturbate (and everything else) to full-blown orgies you will have almost no participation or communication with the host (they rarely respond to non-paying or non-tipping "guests").
What if I want to see private shows, is there a way to save money?
If you want some interaction from a group show or plan on pursuing your sexual fantasies in a private show it is going to cost. However, there are ways to get the most bang for your buck, so to speak.
Are some hosts cheaper/more expensive than others?
Absolutely. And it's not always the case where better hosts cost more money. Mostly its about demand: Hosts that have experience and a loyal following know their customers will spend more than average to see them. Conversely, newer hosts often charge significantly less but can be just as talented, enthusiastic and willing as the veterans.
Also note that on many sites new hosts have a cap on how much they can charge per minute, or a set rate. Since many sites allow you too filter (or search) for "new" performers you may find an ideal host for you at a huge discount versus more experienced, and costly, hosts.
Look out for Sign Up Bonuses
First off, many sites offer a sign-up bonus of X amount of credits when you join. This is a great way to test out a site and see if you enjoy their hosts/performers and the site overall. Most sites that offer a sign-up bonus are highlighted in my reviews.
How do I save money on credit purchases?
You will also notice then when you attempt to purchase credits most adult video chat sites offer a big discount when you buy a larger credit package. If you like a site, plan on sticking around for awhile *and* have the budget, then the highest-priced packages will save you loads in the long run.
Are memberships worth it?
Some sites offer memberships typically for a flat monthly rate of $20 or so. A few offer credits as part of the membership while others will give you free access to paid services like recorded video sessions. If you anticipate using these services then memberships are worth looking into. Cams.com and Flirt4Free are two notable sites with appealing membership packages.
A few tips for saving money in an actual chat include:
1) Ask the performer if they have a mic and request they talk to you rather than type. Unless she/he/they are very slow talkers, chances are this will save a lot of time.
2) Some hosts are really skilled at stalling and basically chewing up as much time as possible. If you feel your host is doing this I'd suggest just leaving and finding someone else - It's clear her goal is not to please you but to drain your wallet. If you're set on this particular host, then I'd suggest politely asking them to move things along or better yet, tell them you like it better when they follow your direction. That way, you tell them what to take off and when, how fast/slow to perform and so on.
3) As tempting as it is to have a little "pillow talk" after the show, remember the clock is still ticking. If you really want to have a long, engaging conversation I'd suggest finding a pen pal. Seriously though, remember to keep things simple and realistic. She's not your soul mate, this is not a fairy tale, this is fantasy and unless you're really rich and don't mind pay $5/minute for a gorgeous host to talk to you for an hour, then I'd recommend keeping the post-show chat to a polite minimum.
After that, it's all about common sense and tempering expectations. Sites like CamContacts offer really cheap private chat rates (as low as $1/minute) but you'll have to sacrifice video quality in some cases. On the other hand a site like Jasmin can be relatively expensive but the quality of video, studios (where the host is broadcasting from), and experience of some hosts is top-notch.
Okay, so now you're up to speed on how adult video chat sites work it's time to test a few out and see what site is best for you. Feel free to try my Cam Wizard which can help find a suitable site based on your wishes and expectations or just browse all my Reviews and see what's right for you!
I truly hope this guide has been helpful to you. If you would like to ask any questions, have anything here clarified or just provide feedback feel free to contact me any time.
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